RELATIONSHIP / COUPLES COUNSELING
Whether you’re trying to navigate the shit-storm that is dating in 2022, working through a painful breakup or divorce, or desperately hoping your marriage or relationship can improve— you do not have to know have to figure this out alone.
Sometimes, friends can be a great resource when we’re going through stuff in relationships… but let’s be honest— sometimes input from friends can muddy the waters even more.
Our therapists offer an empathetic, non-judgmental space— and an honest mirror when that’s what you need— to process your relationship challenges so you can show up as your healthy adult self in those relationships and choose partners who will do the same.
If you’re struggling with any of these issues, we can support you:
Sexual issues in your relationship or dating life (see sex therapy page here for more on that)
Your marriage or long-term relationship feels stagnant and unsatisfying
You and your partner always seem to be fighting or irritated with each other
Feeling lost after a breakup or divorce
Fearful of (or feeling hopeless about) dating but wanting to have a partner
Noticing yourself repeating the same unhealthy patterns in dating/relationships
Difficulty trusting your partner
Uncertainty or anxiety in your relationship that feels overwhelming
Exploring the possibility of opening your relationship— or you already have a non-traditional relationship structure and are navigating challenges coming up
Common Relationship Challenges
Maybe you're feeling like the Hinge hook-ups that used to be "for fun" no longer feel so fun anymore. You're starting to recognize that you're hooking up to avoid your own feelings or to get validation by feeling “wanted.”
Or perhaps you're beyond frustrated because, yet again, the guy you thought seemed like "finally a good one, potentially THE one" has shown his true colors, and you're wondering if you're some kind of jackass magnet.
Or perhaps it’s more subtle: a feeling that you can't quite connect, like emotional intimacy is a language you somehow never learned. Dating can feel so intimidating and vulnerable that it might even make you want to give up on romantic relationships altogether.
Whether your pattern is one of these, or one of about a dozen others we won't list ad nauseam, know that you don't have to figure this out by yourself. If you want a fulfilling, healthy relationship with a respectful, supportive partner, that is not too much to ask. But as the brilliant therapist/author Dave Richo says, relationships are a lot like swimming: we're all born with the capacity, but we're not born with the skills — those we have to learn.
Some of us see good modeling in our family of origin, while others see a lot of what they don't want in a relationship. Sometimes we need to take a close look at not only what was modeled for us, but all the other unhelpful things we've picked up along the way, like our culture's dysfunctional expectations of relationships, and the double-bind those expectations often leave us in, especially for women.